How to Step Out of the Weeds and start Letting Go of control

Letting Go of Control

For those who don’t know, March is Women’s History Month. And for someone who leads a women’s organization, that means my schedule is packed. Every day is a long list of to-dos—meetings, events, emails, decisions. Not to mention everything else: my kids, my house, my own personal goals, and even this blog.

Some of it is fun. Some of it is small, boring tasks. Some of it is me wrestling with my own perfectionism. I want to do things well, but sometimes that drive for excellence is really just me trying to control too much. I catch myself in the middle of it—feeling overwhelmed, stretched too thin, trying to hold everything together.

I am in the weeds!

What Weeds Teach Us

Weeds are resilient. They grow anywhere, surviving against all odds. But the thing about weeds? No one wants them. They get pulled, cut down, discarded—because they weren’t the thing that was meant to grow in that space.

How often do we get so deep in the weeds that we start becoming one? So caught up in the work, the hustle, the checking off of tasks, that we don’t even realize what’s happening around us?

A Season of Letting Go

This week marks the start of Lent, and I’ve been praying for transformation. I asked God what I needed to work on, and one word came to mind: Power.

I was like, wait—Power? Don’t most people just give up social media or coffee for 40 days? But then it hit me—this was about giving up control.

Because if I’m honest, my need for control, my perfectionism, my overcommitment, and my people-pleasing nature all come down to me holding too tightly to things that were never mine to root myself in.

I need to let people do things their own way. I need to let people not like me. I need to let myself not do everything. I need to practice what I preach, that leadership is about influence, not control.

Looking Up Instead of Staying Buried

This season is busy—I can’t change that. But I can change how I move through it. I can choose to step out of survival mode. I can choose to lift my head, even when I feel buried in the weeds. I can choose to loosen my grip, empower others, and trust that they will rise to the occasion. I can choose to pray for transformation and ask God to show me where I need to grow.

Are You in the Weeds?

So, if you’re feeling the same way—overwhelmed, stretched thin, like life is moving faster than you can keep up—let this be your reminder: Look up.

Let go of the things that don’t need your grip. See the good. Celebrate the wins. Step back and trust that not everything has to be held together by you. Choose to lift your head, even when you feel buried in the weeds. And most of all, choose to pray for transformation and ask God to show you where you need to grow.